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The Power of 3 Minutes in Parenting

Cultivating Positive Connections: The Power of 3 Minutes in Parenting

Sounds like a dream, right? Just dedicating 3 minutes of parenting and instantly earning the coveted "I'm a good parent badge.

Let me be honest—I'm a fan of little tips rather than big, overwhelming ideas.

Sometimes, those grand concepts can be intimidating and even leave me feeling guilty when I struggle to achieve them as a parent. Give me small, actionable tips that I can implement easily and gain some momentum—it's a game-changer!

And that's where the magic of 3 minutes of parenting comes in.

As a coach, I find myself naturally exploring different aspects of life with people, including parenting. This 3-minute approach has not only challenged my own parenting style but has also opened the door to practical and positive changes in my household.

It's incredible how a few focused minutes can make a real difference. In fact, focusing on a few key interactions with your child each day can make a significant difference in their happiness and emotional well-being as seen through Dr. Panksepp's research below ⬇️

The Wisdom of Dr. Jaak Panksepp

Dr. Jaak Panksepp, a renowned neuroscientist and psychologist, believed that providing children with positive emotional experiences plays a vital role in their overall development.

According to his theory, the broader the sphere of influence of positive emotions in a child's life, the more likely they are to grow up as productive and happy members of society.

This insight offers a guiding light for parents seeking to create a healthy emotional environment for their kids.

The Three Most Important Moments of a Child's Day

NOTE: I need to emphasize here that this is more for under 12 year olds. The overall principle of 3 minutes, 3 times a day is great for teenagers also but will look very different to the “how” below.

Within the hustle and bustle of parenting, it's crucial to identify and cherish the most important moments of your child's day. These three distinct periods hold great significance in nurturing their emotional well-being:

1. The First 3 Minutes of the Day: A Positive Start

The morning routine sets the tone for the entire day. Instead of rushing through the tasks, take the first 3 minutes after your child wakes up to connect with them in a meaningful way.

Share a hug, ask about their dreams, or engage in a quiet conversation about the day ahead.

By setting a positive tone from the outset, you'll enhance their well-being and create a nurturing atmosphere.

2. The First 3 Minutes After Your Longest Separation: A Warm Reunion

Whether it's after a nap, school, or work, your child's longest separation from you warrants a warm and safe reunion.

Find them, look at them and give them 3 minutes of undivided attention. The goal here is to make them feel valued and seen.

Avoid bombarding them with questions; instead, give them the space to decompress and settle in. A hug and a snack can work wonders in creating a sense of calm and comfort, paving the way for open communication.

3. The Last 3 Minutes Before Bedtime: A Time for Connection

Bedtime is a special and meaningful time for children.

This one I find the hardest because when the kids were young I almost always fell asleep mulitple times trying to read them a book. I was so tired at that point in the evening. They would shake me and say “Wake up Dad!”

Even when you're exhausted and eager for some downtime, try and make these last 3 minutes count.

Use this time to read a story, talk about their day, address any challenges, show your love, and even have a ritual you do as you leave them to make them feel safe.

These simple yet heartfelt gestures can leave a lasting positive impact on their emotional well-being.

Creating a Nurturing Environment

Creating a healthy emotional environment for your children doesn't have to be complicated.

By focusing on these three crucial moments each day, you can cultivate positive connections that will help your child feel happier and more secure.

As you embrace these moments, remember the wisdom of Dr. Jaak Panksepp and his belief in the power of positive emotional experiences. By providing your child with a loving and nurturing atmosphere, you are paving the way for them to become productive and content individuals, even in the face of challenging times.

We don’t always get it right, but simple principles like these make it so much easier to make it better. So, take a deep breath, slow down, and savor these precious three minutes that can make all the difference in the world for your little one.

Chris Opie

Helping business leaders who struggle to balance their high pressure job with the commitments of family, create healthy life rhythms



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